So you want to be an entrepreneur?

Today, the industry is flooded with people working for themselves. Making their own hours, working from home in their pajamas. It sounds AMAZING right?! 

Well, it is. But, there is always more to the story than just fuzzy slippers and your favorite mug every morning. I want to share some of the biggest secrets with you that every successful entrepreneur knows. 

Real Commitment Begins When Things Start to Really Suck! 

Working for yourself is an everyday, every moment commitment to yourself to stick with it. Most times, there is no one around to motivate you when the light at the end of the tunnel is disappearing. We get up, set our schedule, and do. Even when there is no immediate reward. There is no easy way around this. You have to make up your mind and STICK TO IT. 

Consistency = Influence 

Anyone can start. Most people will even try for a while. But, being consistence with the little things; the everyday things. That is when you've got something. The struggle is inevitable. The pain is inevitable and the DOUBT IS ABSOLUTELY INEVITABLE. But, when you choose to be consistent, in time, you will reap what you have sown. And boy, that is when it all becomes worth it. 

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Wish You were better

There will be moments of doubt. But, never has any  successful entrepreneur wished it was easier. When things get easier you stop growing. If you're not getting better, your business is not either. Never wish it was easier. Only wish YOU were better. When you grow you open opportunities for advancements, ideas and influence. You just never know where it may take you! 

They never lose 

Any successful person, especially entrepreneurs, never lose. They either win OR THEY LEARN. Each set back to them is praised. They take moments of struggle, opposition, and conflict to reflect. They use those moments to grow and create something new. Nothing is wasted. And honestly, those moments are usually the favorites. They become irreplaceable moments in time that leave a brand on us that will forever define who we are becoming. Entrepreneurs never lose. 

Exercise 

Results require effort. Period. There is not a single professional athlete who has not put in more effort than most can even dream of. They know that without physical excellence there is no mental excellence. And without an excellent mind, there really is no competition. As an entrepreneur they understand this basic and very simple principle. This simple act of consistent repetition cultivates HUGE results. 

Forgiveness 

When you blame others you are just wasting time which in return delays your growth. When you blame others it simply makes you stuck. Successful entrepreneurs know how to forgive and move on. They don't allow anyone or anything to keep them in the same place or take them backwards. Sometimes, that means moving on without someone or without a resolution. They forgive. They don't place blame. They above all endure. 

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They Set Boundaries 

The final point is one of the most important. Every single time you get serious about making a change you set boundaries. Most entrepreneurs find that especially in the beginning of their business they spent days, weeks, and nights justifying their decisions to those around them and unfortunately, most stop there.

But, when you get serious about living out your purpose you get serious about setting boundaries.

When you set boundaries with those who are a negative influence you start to dismiss unnecessary hurdles. You create a new growth and in return attracts a new tribe. Those who don't come with don't deserve where you're headed. Let them go. 

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N A P L E S

We have some exciting news here at Mostly Becky.

SAY WHAT?

HOW CAN THERE BE MORE EXCITING THINGS HAPPENING AROUND HERE? 

Well, friends. There is. 

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We have relocated seasonally to the Naples, Florida area! We have planned events in Florida for the past two years, but have been so excited to finally reach this goal. I graduated from Southeastern University in Lakeland, FL and grew up spending the winters in Naples, FL since before I can remember. Florida has always been my second home. 

Now, we could not be more excited to call Naples, FL home for part of the year! We hope the beaches, palm trees, and beauty of this area of the country inspire you as much as they do us. 

Stay tuned as we explore this city and all it has to offer. Plus, we may take this event thing to the beach! 

If you could relocate to anywhere in the world where would it be? 

Casey & Chris

Casey is an old friend of mine. She and I lived together in Florida after college. She is one of the strongest and kindest people I've ever known. She and I had moved away and life seemed to just be going. Then one day, she called "I've met someone." 

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Chris and Casey met online. They immediately shared a connection that Casey had never described to me before. '"He loves everything about me." 

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I did get the pleasure to be apart of their event both behind the scenes and in front. Casey had originally just asked that I be apart of her wedding day as a bridesmaid. She wanted a simple, family oriented day with just a few loved ones around her. But, after planning out every detail, she had found out that friends who had committed to helping her on the big day dropped the ball. There were tears streaming down her face as she and I sat outside her bachelorette dinner. "What am I going to do?" 

The wedding planner in me set a plan in motion. I asked if she minded that I step up and ensure her day was exactly what she had planned. Right there, we created a plan and a timeline. I cannot imagine what it must have felt like thinking all the hard work you have been planning for may not even happen. 

Well, of course the day was beautiful and smooth! We loved the simplicity of their special day. Because it was filled with just so many answered prayers, tears, and laughter. This day really was her dream come true. 

Take a look at the beautiful Orlando, Florida outdoor wedding. 

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Images By: The Way We Were Photography 

Design and Planning By: Mostly Becky Weddings & Events

"Becky is one of my dearest friends! I asked her to be a bridesmaid and she was so much more than that!! She jumped right in and went right into full planner mode when I needed her in an unforeseen circumstance. Everything turned out more beautiful than I could've imagined it! She saw my vision and ran with it in less than a 24 hour notice! Girls with upcoming weddings--you NEED Becky!" - Casey

Introducing Wedding Wednesday

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Recently, on Instagram I have been asking you what you wanted to see more of and TODAY we couldn't be more proud introduce to you Wedding Wednesdays. You have expressed wanting to see more wedding inspiration from us and we couldn't be happier to share what inspires us, what inspires others, and beautiful trends in the wedding industry. 

We are happily introducing Wedding Wednesdays. Every Wednesday we will feature some wedding inspiration from some of the best wedding industry professionals around the globe. 

Follow along on Instagram and don't miss a Wednesday! 

 

5 Questions to Ask When Booking your Wedding Venue

Have you ever toured a home that was for sale just because? I KNOW I HAVE! What is it about snooping in where someone else has made memories and a life that we just want to see?

Human nature kicks in and I think we all, if we are honest, at one time have snooped where we should not have. I think of the best parts of searching for wedding venues is being able to take a look around. See what each space has to offer, and then asked. Can I see myself here? 

Besides all the FUN it is to venue shop. There are 5 important questions, every searching couple needs to ask!

ASK TO SEE THE CONTRACT.

This may seem like common sense, but take time to read it at home when you are not distracted by the view. There may be stipulations that just wont work with you and your event. If you can send a copy to your wedding planner, DO IT. They will be able to read through things and help guide you to the next questions. This may even save you time AND money!

 ASK WHEN THE PARTY HAS TO END. 

Make sure to get in writing the time that every personal item has to be out of the rented space once the event is over. There are TWO things I want to bring up here. One, a longer night creates a longer day of drinking for your friends, and usually if the night is too long there is more to handle at the end of the night than just finding an Uber home. Second, define what "end time" means to the venue. Does that mean the time everything and person has to vacated? Or does that mean last call and last song? This makes a HUGE difference to the vendors that you may chose to work with you on your big day and this question clarification will allow you to give your contributing vendors accurate information for the proposals they will be sending you. No one likes surprise fees!

ASK TO SEE WHERE THE ELECTRICAL OUTLETS ARE.

Probably, at the time of your initial visit you may not even be close to thinking of details this small. But, there will be plenty of logistical things that solely depend on your power sources. That perfect layout may not be as perfect with a large extension cord running through the middle. Ask, make a mental note and even write it down for reference. 

ASK ABOUT ONSITE MANAGEMENT DURING THE EVENT.

Most wedding venues may have a designated event coordinator onsite to make sure the doors are locked up at the end of the evening. But, there are plenty of venues that we create into wedding dreams that do not have this staffing option. This can cause a lot of headache if things are not where they are supposed to be upon your arrival. There are plenty of times an extra table or chair is needed last minute and if your wedding planner does not have access to the storage of these items it can cause a big nightmare over a small thing. If the venue of your dreams does not provide a onsite event coordinator, tell your wedding planner as soon as you can. They will help you navigate the needs of this space and help book professional vendors who will be well worth the investment!

ASK ABOUT RESPONSIBILITY OF SET UP AND TEAR DOWN.

Most venues will want to tell you all the options their day of pricing includes. But, just having access to chairs and tables does not mean it wont be a ton of work to use these all inclusive items. Ask if the venue not only provides the those items but ALSO sets up and tears down. If your venue includes this service; you have a great start. If not, make sure to speak with your wedding planner about what options you may have. Their expertise on the logistics of your big day will be invaluable to you. 

There are always things that may come up when visiting your wedding venue. So don't be afraid to ask questions! Even after your initial visit, follow up and get things in writing from any wedding vendor or venue. This could save you a lot of stress later on!

Happy venue viewing! 

H E A T H E R

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We have some BIG news here!

Some of you may remember our sweet Heather. We introduced you all to her here. In the last few years I have worked closely with Heather. Our first event together was in 2012 in Winterset, Iowa. She joined me for an outdoor ceremony and barn reception. Immediately, I knew that her work ethic and sense of style is something we needed. There has never been a question in my mind she was made to be apart of this team. We are SO BLESSED to have her.

Look there she is now. 

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The time for change is here and Mostly Becky is now EXPANDING!

Heather is one of our newest Des Moines, Iowa area wedding planners.

AND she is willing to travel! She has 5+ years experience in wedding planning. She has worked with us here at Mostly Becky, as well as planning events at Hyperion in Johnston, Iowa. But, these are not the only fields she has touched. She's worked with wedding florists, she's planned events with the YMCA and countless others. 

WE ARE SO PROUD OF HER! 

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"This picture doesn't even need a filter because my boss is so beautiful! Thanks for being the most amazing wedding planner for me to look up to. I got the privilege of working the whole weekend with Mostly Becky and I enjoyed every minute of it. Thank you for your work advice, your relationship advice, and sharing the love of Jesus with me and everyone you meet. You truly inspire me."- Heather

Countless hours in the event world, we are SO grateful to see her grow into the beautiful woman she is! Please join me in congratulating her! 

Make sure to follow her to keep up with all the cool stuff she is doing! 

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Country Lane Lodge

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Small town Iowa doesn't seem just as small anymore. Driving through Adel, IA you would never know the venue of your dreams is hidden behind a timber of trees. What was once a cow pasture has now been transformed into an event venue holding up to 400. The venue includes a dreamy BRIDAL SUITE with every accommodation a girl imagine! And of course, gentlemen your space is equip with couches, TVs and it is only a few steps up from the bar.

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Country Lane Lodge may speak to the small town look you've been dreaming of for your wedding day. But, make no mistake this venue is high powered with a outlets and USB drives on every corner for your and your guests; also equip with flat screens to showcase any technological experience you have envisioned.

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The chandeliers lining the ceiling will draw an elegance to any event and allowing any mood to be set. So if you're just a small town girl looking for THAT place to make your dream wedding come true. Country Lane Lodge in Adel, IA is just that. 

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Late this summer I joined a team of some of the best Des Moines area wedding vendors to showcase this space for you! We wanted you to experience and see the birth of your dream day come to life. Our styled event at Country Lane Lodge featured a small ceremony, dinner and of course dessert! What is any event without cake?

 

We feature some of the best photo opportunities available to anyone who chooses to make Country Lane Lodge their memory. Come dream with us as we take you through a dreamy whimsical boho-chic inspired wedding day. 

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Working alongside our team of creatives was truly an honor. An honor we hope you cherish, enjoy, and scroll through time and time again. 

Dream Team of Vendors who helped create this beauty:Floral, Decor & Design: Shelly Sarver Designs.  Venue: Country Lane Lodge. Planning & Design: Mostly Becky Weddings & Events. Wedding Gown: Pure Bridal. Chairs & Decor: Unique Events. Makeup: Ivy Boyd Makeup. Hair: ElevenCherry. Hair Accessory: Something Blue. Invite Suite: Gatherie Creative. Cakes: Little BlackBird Bakery. Groom’s Attire: Jacket: Michael Kors, Bow Tie: Two Guys Bow Tie, Boots: Tradehome. Photography: Brooke Pavel Photography.

 

Planning & Design: Mostly Becky Weddings & Events. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Florals, Decor & Design: Shelly Sarver Designs. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Venue: Country Lane Lodge. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Wedding Gown: Pure Bridal. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Chairs & Decor: Unique Events. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Makeup: Ivy Boyd Makeup. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Hair: ElevenCherry. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Hair Accessory: Something Blue. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Invite Suite: Gatherie Creative. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Cakes: Little BlackBird Bakery. Website | Facebook | Instagram

Photography: Brooke Pavel Photography. Website | Facebook | Instagram

 

Christopher & Niza

Between my love of travel, the white sand beaches and this gorgeous couple; do Florida events get any better? I had the pleasure of getting to know Niza and her family at their Southwest Florida home. Although we had a connection through Niza's sister, I had never had the pleasure of meeting either Christopher or Niza until the weekend of their event. 

Planning destination events has been one of my favorite parts of my business. When I started my event planning career 99% of my clients were from over 500+ miles away. Destination events are where my roots are planted. The distance in planning did not make them skip a beat. The moment I met Chris & Niza I knew this event would be beautiful. (I mean look at them!)

 

But, their taste was flawless, their spirits gentle, and their family was so welcoming. With this combination, I knew this event would be one of the best yet! 

I am so honored to share a little of their story with you. 

Tucked away in the Bride's family home in Southwest Florida. I drove up to the house and met Niza for the first time. Her first words, "Wow you're so pretty!" Are you shocked, I was too. But, it wasn't just the first impression that stuck with me. It was what Chris and Niza had built their relationship on; the love of others. Every single vendor and every single guest felt wanted and welcome. It is no surprise when Niza asked if I would help with her last minute floral emergency, my team and I jumped on the opportunity to serve them. There was a hiccup the night before the event and Niza was in need of someone to put together the 2,800 long stem roses and 30,000 white rose petals! Bouquets, boutonnieres, centerpieces and ceremony decor all had to be done in less than 24 hours. 

Although, I am NO florist! My team and I did our best. (Pardon my cell photo in the garage).

Bride's Bouquet. The final product! 

Bride's Bouquet. The final product! 

The evening was closing in and we were wrapping up our floral design for the evening when a piece of floral wire flung into the air and poked me in my left eye! It hurt so badly! Like I said, I am NO florist. Although, I could still see it did not stop the eye from swelling shut. The day of the event, I was shall we say, Pirate Wedding Planner? YES! I had a eye patch and no make up on half of my face. I figured there was no need to have streaming mascara too! But, when I say Niza and Chris loved everyone they really showed me so much love even in my pain. I was showered in items from CVS and constantly given anything I needed to help ease some of my discomfort. I was so impressed with their selflessness on THEIR big day. They really are something special. 

And if I am being truly honest, if they would not have been so gracious I am not sure how we could have made it through. Besides, the normal to-dos of a wedding day, we have the instruction of a one-eyed wedding planner, pouring rain on our ceremony and dinner set up, unseasonable heat of the upper 90's with about 100% humidity, and film crew trying to make Mostly Becky's promotional film. Even reliving this day I still feel some of the pain. Like I said, Niza and Chris were SO gracious to us. But, we think it turned out stunning! I mean see for yourself. 

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Another iPhone picture. 

So what do you think? We loved how it turned out so much we wanted to create a film to show it off. You can see it here. After this event, we have never been more certain that people are worth more than any detail. When you are surrounded by the love others exemplifying Christ everyone will be successful. Thank you Niza & Chris for sharing your day with us! If we could, we'd do it ALL over again. 

 

Thanks to Echo Cinematics for their beautiful film and patience! 

And a special thanks to Maria Glassford Photography for allowing us to show off her beautiful images! 

Becky was amazing to say the least! I had an outdoor wedding in Florida, and of course it poured. my reception area was a disater but Becky and her team made it happen! It looked beyond perfect... So perfect I didn’t even know that everything was knocked down or that things had broken till after the wedding that the photographer shared that with me! I love Becky and her team so much, not only are they professional but they go above and beyond in all areas and really strive to make your day perfect!
— Niza