How to Handle a "MaidZilla"

Last weekend, we were interviewed by Wedding Wire!!

They asked us to help them help you on how to handle a “MaidZilla!”

So you know, when your friends love you JUST A LITTLE TOO MUCH…

Yeah, I mean we all want friends who will have our back no matter what! But, on the big day, how do you handle a tense situation?

We’re sharing our thoughts and ideas here, you DON’T WANT TO MISS IT!

The Average Cost of a 2017 Wedding

Photo by:  Hunter Ryan Photo


Friends, let’s be honest! Does anyone really know how much a wedding costs? I mean, how could you? You’ve never done it before right? Or it was so long ago you can’t remember?

Well, we have joined with The Knot to bring you some pricing knowledge about the big scary word, BUDGET.

We hope that this information will help guide you to the national average price of a wedding, to educate you so when sifting through all the vendors and contracts during your planning process, you can have peace of mind that what you are paying is actually what you SHOULD BE PAYING.

And before, we go any further. One of the most important things you can do for your planning process is…


The knot has a great tool to help you get started.

And the second most important thing you can do is…

List what is most important to you.

What part of your wedding are you NOT willing to cut back on.?Then know everything else, may have to compromise to ensure your budget it kept.

Below is the AVERAGE price of wedding vendors for 2017.

Sourced from

TOTALING $43,162

Does this match with what you’re finding? If not, remember, you can allocate different amounts to categories that YOU THINK are a priority. And of course, your wedding planner is a great resource to help you digest all of this.

For more wedding planning tips…

Check out What are you forgetting to ask your wedding planner?

Kari- Des Moines Wedding Assistant

We are just the luckiest! When Kari joined the team, we became one of the best wedding planning teams there is! Kari has been one of our alternative assistants for 2 years! 

She has helped myself and both of Mostly Becky's associate planners- Elizabeth & Heather

Photo By  Less Traveled Photography  Look at her here...working our Assoc. Colorado Planner's Wedding!! <3

Photo By Less Traveled Photography Look at her here...working our Assoc. Colorado Planner's Wedding!! <3

She is one of the hardest workers we have ever seen!


Kari and her sweet hubby!&nbsp;

Kari and her sweet hubby! 

Kari, sometimes known as Karl (Her hubby calls her this)! loves cheesy potatoes! If she had to pick, purple is her favorite color. And she loves lions! Big secret...


Kari loves to travel to Northern Minnesota & Arizona! Now, this is the reason she fits so well here! We started planning weddings in Northern Minnesota at Lutsen Resort! The North Shore has just a special place in our hearts! It's our home! <3 

Kari and her hubby on an adventure in AZ!

Kari and her hubby on an adventure in AZ!

She loves to shop at Dry Goods while sipping on a Carmel Latte from Starbucks carrying her Noonday Collection purse. See her favorite one here! 

If Karl ;) isn't working with Mostly Becky or looking for a lion to pet, she will be outdoors!

She loves adventure! - A girl after our own hearts!

I mean, isn't she the cutest?

I mean, isn't she the cutest?

She says, her dream wedding inspiration is here at Mostly Becky. And, well we don't even know what to say now.... 

We just adore this girl here, and consider ourselves to have the best team ever, now that she has joined us! I mean look, this is a sweet note she just left us... (excuse me while I go dry my tears)!

Working for Moslty Becky and her company has been such a pleasure! She is a hard worker, enjoys what she does, makes her clients happy and gets the job done. I have appreciated being influenced by her and her knowledge. I hope to continue to work with her. She is for sure my number one pick in sharing with people who are in need of a wedding planner. 
— Kari
Here we are working a Des Moines Wedding!&nbsp;

Here we are working a Des Moines Wedding! 

Don't forget to follow her on Instagram & Facebook so you can see all the amazing things her and her hunny are up to! 

Kari and Andrew on their wedding day! &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3&nbsp;

Kari and Andrew on their wedding day! <3 <3 <3 


Thanks Kari for being here! We wouldn't be us without you! 





One of the BIGGEST Wedding Fails

What's the difference between a wedding planner and your venue's coordinator? Aren't they the same thing? 

Don't worry! This is confusing! If you didn't know the difference, we get it! Most people don't know there is a difference. If your wedding venue offers on-site coordinating services you may be tempted to not hire an outside wedding planner to save on costs. But there’s a good chance that you could end up frustrated and stressed out on your wedding day when the venue coordinator fails to “perform”.

 Simply put, the venue coordinator is coordinating between yourself and the venue staff only.

Even though, there are many venues who offer full-service planners for your wedding day. Their full-service may not be exactly what you are expecting. These services will focus mainly on what the venue provides to you only. For example; the banquet staff, food service, table and chair set up. 

So how does that happen? Maybe you hear the venue coordinator say things like, "I'll be here to help with anything the day of." YOU HEAR, she will take full ownership of anything happening on the wedding day, coordinating with other vendors, and playing catch all with every small thing that may come up. I am certain that in any emergencies your venue coordinator will be there to help, but they won't be there to take full ownership of all the moving parts on that day, simply because it isn't their job

So, the venue coordinator ends up getting a bad reputation for not doing things you thought they were handling. And you as the bride start to freak out about things that you just shouldn't have to on your wedding day!  

So who takes care of all the "other" stuff? 

You may be wondering, what other stuff is there to worry about?

Let's start with our FREE TO-DO LIST for anyone planning a wedding! This list may help you define what small things may need to be attended to, while you are getting married, just in case. 

But, there are so many possibilities that can and will arise that can be stress-free for you if you are working with a wedding planner. 


So here are 5 wedding fails you want to avoid when working with a venue coordinator. 

Number one! 

A wedding planner is your biggest advocate! They are working WITH you to create the wedding of your dreams.  There are times in-house coordinators are there to support their staff and sell you something more. A wedding planner hired by you is not going to try and add on upcharges. They will be fully supportive of your vision, ideas, and plans. And only there to help you communicate that to all your vendors. A venue coordinator will have the venues best interest in mind above all. So keep this in mind. 

Number two! 

A venue coordinator may have multiple events that day or weekend at their venue. This will divide their attention between you and other clients. They will likely have limited availability for questions or assistance during the time of the other event, this could cause stress on your if were expecting decor to be unpacked or, even worse still, when the morning wedding is vacating the ballroom you booked so that you can access it!

Number Three! 

An onsite coordinator is most likely not going to set up your wedding decor. They're main concern is going to be to make sure the tables, chairs, place settings and dishware are where they need to be. You cannot expect them to set up your centerpieces, name cards, or chair covers. Those duties belong to your wedding planner. Make sure to get a detailed list of things the venue coordinator plans to handle. Then create an additional to-do and work with your wedding planner to make sure these things get taken care of. 


Number four!

Photo by  Ana Jones

Photo by Ana Jones

A wedding coordinator will not ensure vendors are doing their job. Their primary focus will be that the venue is providing what they contracted to you. So, if you need someone to make sure your DJ is sticking to the playlist you agreed upon, your venue coordinator will not take that initiative. There may be logistics they have to manage during the timing of your event to accommodate other guests and their contracts. 

Number five! 

The venue coordinator will not carefully deliver your timeline. With the exception of deliverables that the venue is providing, the venue coordinator is not obligated to make sure that things are happening smoothly and according to your schedule. Some examples: Are photos taking longer than expected? Are one of the bridesmaids missing in action? Is decor set-up running way behind schedule? Here a wedding planner is pretty much a life saver! Your wedding planner will be acting as a behind the scenes director, making sure that all the players know their parts, and that they are on cue, too. 

And remember, every venue will have specifics for their spaces. Make sure to ask the right questions, and don't be afraid to ask for things in writing! 

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